(Memphis) You may not know it, but there’s a war at homes in the Mid-South and across the country.
We’re talking about something known as “Mommy Wars.”
Parent magazine says almost every mother judges the way other women mother their children.
Alissa Dunn traded in the corporate world to stay-at-home mom for her two sons.
“When I laid eyes on him, I knew that I wanted to be with him every moment of the day,” said Dunn.
Dunn says staying at home also allows her time to focus on her youngest son’s severe food allergy.
But she says staying at home isn’t without its challenges, and she must make a point to get out and be social to avoid loneliness.
“I’m not at home just in my pajamas, hanging out watching TV all day. We are very busy and we’re doing lots of activities with them and we are constantly on the go,” said Dunn.
As for people who may judge her decision, Dunn says she’s too busy and focused on her children to pay attention to the naysayers.
But not everyone has the luxury of staying at home, and cringe at the phrase ‘full-time mom’ because it insinuates working moms pick up parenting as a part-time hobby.
“A career was very important to me and that may sound selfish to some, but I feel like I am teaching my children responsibility, to do things they are afraid of doing,” said Heather Lipke.
Lipke is a working single mother.
Despite the financial necessity, Lipke says she would still choose to be a working mom because it works for her family.
She calls her 9- and 10-year-old sons very responsible and says they can cook, clean up, and know a lot about time management.
“I feel like teaching them that mom has to go to work and do all these things means mom needs your help in return and together it makes us a little bit tighter as a family,” said Lipke.
When Lipke isn’t traveling the world or working as a project manager and director of brand standards for Hilton Worldwide, she’s raising her sons Ethan and Aaron.
She gives 100 percent to everything she does, but Lipke makes sure her sons are a priority.
“As a career person, I’ve made some changes in my lifestyle. I’m not able to go be social as much as I would like to be or might be invited to be, but I choose to stay home with my children when I have the opportunity,” said Lipke.
Both Dunn and Lipke claim they’re happy with their own situations and warn moms to not waste time worrying about what another mother is doing.
Psychologists say social media sites like Facebook and Twitter are taking private conversations and making them public throwing fuel on the fire.
They also say people over-share and not everyone needs to know everything you think.
According to Parade magazine, work isn’t the only polarizing topic between moms.
The magazine also says mothers also have extremely strong options on breastfeeding.