(Memphis) The “selfie.” Those self-portraits taken on your phones are more popular than ever. Their popularity is greatest among teens and young adults.
“You really don’t know who they are and when they have different looks and they can look silly and act funny and be with their friends that’s great because they are really finding out who they are one aspect that`s so good about selfies,” psychologist Dr. Karen Gubin’s said.
Overall, she’s a selfie fan.
“The first selfie that ever came out was in the 1860s. It was the first self portrait and it was really for wealthy people because they wanted to perceive how they look,” Gubin said.
But she warns what can be fun can turn into obsession over looks.
“If they can’t put down their phone and they’re constantly looking and taking pictures and they’re very moody then we know there is something wrong. Not really living in the world. They are living for other people and what other people think of them,” she said.
She tells parents to watch your child’s mood.
“When it has to do with your self esteem and you get so self absorbed that`s when its worrisome with these 13-year-olds, 14-years-olds, teenagers, college kids.”
Psychologists worry self esteem often becomes measured in likes.
Say your child gets 20 likes on one photo she or he posts to Facebook, Gubin said that may be good for this time, but if the next photo gets just five likes, your child could think something is wrong.
People do need to be cautious.
“When they put something out there. It’s always going to be out there. you can never get it back and people need to realize that.
Because while a selfie is just meant to capture a moment in time, on the internet, the selfie lives forever.